Hello Dear Brothers & Sisters,

I’ve written on this topic many times, in my books or articles and as recently as last week. But given that I am currently dealing with friends and family members facing “death watch” situations, I feel God laying it upon my heart to write about it some more. So, for those of you watching a loved one dying, facing a terminal disease, or end of life from old age. It is an emotionally draining period that will cause heartache, and a myriad of emotions that are explosive from within to without. And having run many support groups for people facing such issues, this topic was one of the “most popular” in terms of counseling. So, I will offer some words of advice based on my experience in this arena. May it be a source of comfort to those in need of this post.

May God be with you all.
XXOO

Watching a loved one die is one of the most difficult and painful experiences in life. It can cause a range of emotions, such as sadness, anger, fear, guilt, and loneliness. However, there are some ways to cope with this situation and offer comfort and support to the dying person and yourself. Here are some of my suggestions based on this topic, along with some Bible passages that may provide hope and peace.

• Be present and attentive.
  One of the best ways to help someone who is dying is to simply be there for them. Listen to their stories, their fears, their hopes, and their regrets. Let them know that they are not alone and that you care for them. Hold their hand, hug them, or touch them gently. Sometimes, words are not necessary; just your presence can make a difference.

“The Lord is near to the brokenhearted and saves the crushed in spirit.” (Psalm 34:18)

• Respect their wishes and beliefs.
  Everyone has their own way of coping with death and dying. Some people may want to talk about it, while others may prefer to avoid the topic. Some people may have strong religious or spiritual beliefs, while others may not. Some people may want to be surrounded by family and friends, while others may want some privacy and solitude. Try to respect and honor their wishes and beliefs, as long as they are not harmful to themselves or others.  And please no matter how tempted you may be –do not impose your own views or expectations on them. Let them die with dignity and grace.

“Do not judge, and you will not be judged. Do not condemn, and you will not be condemned. Forgive, and you will be forgiven.” (Luke 6:37)

• Share memories and gratitude.
  One of the ways to help someone who is dying is to remind them of the positive impact they have had on your life and others. Share some of the happy memories you have with them, the lessons you have learned from them, the qualities you admire in them, and the things you are grateful for because of them. This can help them feel appreciated, valued, and loved. It can also help you express your feelings and emotions and find some closure and healing.

“I thank my God every time I remember you. In all my prayers for all of you, I always pray with joy.” (Philippians 1:3-4)

• Pray for them and with them.
  Prayer can be a powerful source of comfort and strength for both the dying person and for yourself as well.
  Pray for God’s mercy, grace, and peace to fill their hearts and minds.
  Pray for their physical, emotional, and spiritual well-being. Pray for their salvation and eternal life.
  If they are willing, pray with them and let them hear your words of faith and hope. You can also read some of the comforting Bible verses about death and dying, such as John 11:25-26, Revelation 21:4, and 1 Corinthians 15:51-52.

“The prayer of a righteous person is powerful and effective.” (James 5:16)

• Take care of yourself.
  Watching a loved one die can take a toll on your own health and well-being. You may feel exhausted, overwhelmed, depressed, or anxious. You may neglect your own needs and responsibilities. You may isolate yourself from others or cope in unhealthy ways. However, it is important to take care of yourself, so that you can be a better caregiver and supporter for your loved one. Try to get enough rest, eat well, exercise, and relax. Seek help from others, such as family, friends, professionals, or support groups. Remember that God is with you and loves you.

“Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest.” (Matthew 11:28)

“May God be with all those passing on to their eternal rest, and may God’s Word and Spirit provide comfort and ease to the loved ones left behind, may they be filled with confidence knowing they will meet again one day, and at that time they will never have to say ‘goodbye’ ever again, as they will all share in the supper at the Lamb’s table, in Jesus’ name I pray, Amen.”